Couples

Most couples who come to see me still love each other deeply, but are stuck in communication patterns that often spiral out of control, leaving each individual feeling hurt, angry, sad and/or misunderstood.

I work first to calm things down by changing the triggering communication patterns.  Then, if needed, together we’ll explore and heal the deeper issues within each individual that are at the root of these patterns.  Most often these issues stem from legacy wounds from our less than perfect upbringing or from challenging past relationships.

These days, my work with couples is very informed by the EFT (Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy) model.  I am an Advanced Practitioner of EFT and I find it remarkably effective in helping couple simmer down, reconnect, and fall in love again.

Some typical issues couples come in with are:

• Generally driving each other crazy
• Anger and fighting
• Power struggles
• Inability to break out of intractable patterns
• Navigating past traumas and abuse
• Sexual issues and loss of intimacy
• Navigating “alternative” lifestyles (such as polyamory and BDSM)
• LGBTIQ very welcome